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December 31, 2010 @ 2:55 pm

How to Date After 40


Dating and Relationship Coach for Women Over 40 Bobbi Palmer joins the show. She defines dating like a grownup, specific things that women can do to attract good men who are good for them and more.

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Bobbi Palmer resides in Long Beach, California. Her company is Date Like a Grownup. If you're a single woman over 40, scared you'll be alone forever and losing hope of ever finding that special man, Bobbi will help you find hope and then teach you how to find him. Bobbi is not just a dating coach; she is a dating success story. She was married for the first time at age 47, and enjoys a loving and fun relationship with her spectacular husband, Larry.


As a coach, Bobbi compassionately and expertly shares her successes – and mistakes – in her 6-step Find Hope and Find Him Program. (That's what worked for her.) As one of her clients said "talking to Bobbi is like talking to a girlfriend who has her act together when it comes to men….She has the insight and empathy that can only come from someone who has been there.”

Bobbi was selected as one of the 101 Women Bloggers to Watch in 2010 by WE Magazine for Women. She is the Official Love Guide for, the #1 Self Improvement site on the Internet.

Bobbi is a speaker, author and blogger and event producer. She offers 1-1 private and group coaching, live workshops and singles' events. Her eBook The 7 Secrets to Finally Finding Love After 40: Confessions of the World's Worst Dater. You can email Bobbi at or call 562.608.8685. She invites you to read her blog and pick up your complimentary gifts at In addtion participate in our community at


Abbreviated Transcript of Interview with Bobbi Palmer

Eric Michaels: Your company is called Date Like a Grownup. How would you define dating like a grownup?

Bobbi Palmer: Dating like a grown up has a few elements. It is having confidence and trust in yourself. Having awareness of what you bring to a relationship  and knowing that you are enough; also having an awareness of where you might be able to improve yourself to get what you're looking for -- in a mate and in a lifestyle with that mate. Trusting your judgment, making good choices, knowing what you want and focusing on finding a man who will add that to your life. Being realistic and not expecting or waiting for that perfect man. It's looking for a good man; a man who makes you happy and wants to share a great life with you. It is also a balance between your heart and head. Get past the emotions, manage the rejection…grab that grownup girl and make sure you include her in your decisions. Confidence, good choices, balance head and heart = dating like a grownup and with grace – make it look effortless and elegant…you're not trying so hard and you're being yourself.

Eric Michaels: What do you find to be the biggest obstacles for women when they’re dating?

Bobbi Palmer: From my experience it is self esteem. I work with women in their 40s all the way to 70s – it's surprising how many women still judge themselves based on their experiences from long ago. They don't know how fabulous they are! When I coach my 1st step is "Who Am I? Falling in Love With Myself." I help my clients take a fresh look at themselves and begin to see the truth about who they are. It's often eye-opening and life-changing. They think they know what men want …based on when they were 30, mature men – men of life experiences, aren't those guys anymore. Beliefs based on decisions and experiences when they were 18 or 25.  This creates obstacles and patterns they don’t even see that stand in the way. Beliefs: All men are jerks, liars, superficial – they aren't. I have to have a man who is at least 3 inches taller. I refuse to date a man who doesn’t get along with his Mother..ect.

Eric Michaels: Is there something you recommend women do to prepare for dating?

Bobbi Palmer: My First commandment: Know and love thyself - self esteem and awareness. Know what you want in a man and a relationship. Be sure to get past your laundry list of adjectives and dig deep. Know your audience. Understand and appreciate men. Know how to communicate based on our differences...


Want the entire audio version of this eHealth Radio Episode? Bobbi Palmer discusses & answers:

  • How can women learn to enjoy dating rather than dreading it?
  • What are specific things that women can do to attract good men who are good for them?
  • Conclusion Tip...

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