December 6, 2010 @ 10:16 pm
Judge Lynn Toler of TV's Divorce Court joined eHealth Radio to talk about her experience as serving on the bench. She gives good advice for those considering divorce and a whole lot more. She even shares what her craziest case was in which you got to hear.
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Judge Lynn is a graduate of Harvard University and The University of Pennsylvania Law School. She began practicing law in Cleveland in 1984. In 1993, at the age of 33, she was elected judge of The Cleveland Heights Municipal Court. While on the bench, Judge Lynn volunteered actively in her community creating innovative programs for young offenders such as Woman Talk, a program designed to intensively mentor young, at-risk girls.
While on the bench, Judge Toler also headed the Cleveland Heights Coordinated Community Response to Violence against Women, a countywide initiative for the coordination of community resources to assist women who are victims of violence. She was also active as an advisory board member for Templum House, a battered women’s shelter. As a result of her work in the area of domestic violence in 2002, she was awarded The Humanitarian of the Year Award from The Cleveland Domestic Violence Center.
In 2001, Judge Lynn became the host of the nationally syndicated show Power of Attorney. During this time Judge Toler started work on her first book and served as a retired judge sitting by assignment in multiple jurisdictions throughout Ohio. In addition, as an adjunct professor at Ursuline College, Judge Toler created and taught courses on Civil Rights Law, and Women and the Law. She was also a frequent instructor for the Ohio Judicial College, where she helped create and taught continuing judicial education course for other judges.
Judge Lynn became the host of Divorce Court since 2006. In 2007, she expanded her television presence becoming the host of the prime time television show, Decision House. In 2008 and 2009, Judge Lynn was a bi-monthly contributor on News and Notes, a weekly news show on National Public Radio (NPR). In 2009, she became a co-executive producer of Wedlock or Deadlock, A new syndicated series based on a segment of Divorce Court.
Judge Lynn is the author of two books. Her first, My Mother’s Rules: A Practical Guide to Becoming an Emotional Genius published in 2006, is a humorous memoir in which Judge Lynn recounts a childhood lived in the shadow of mental illness and provides a practical guide to the emotional lesson learned from that experience. Her second book, Put It In Writing, coauthored with Deborah Hutchison, was published in September, 2009. It gives readers concrete, conflict-free solutions to the difficult situations that arise between family and friends.
Judge Lynn continues to write frequently for a variety of magazines. Currently she is a featured writer for Divorce Magazine published through out the United States and Canada. In 2009, Judge Toler was given The Voice of Freedom Award by the Philadelphia Chapter of the Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. joining former honorees Colin Powell and Vice President Al Gore, in ringing the Liberty Bell on Martin Luther King Day.
Born on October 25, 1959, she has been married to Eric Mumford since April,1989. She had two sons and four stepsons.
Partial Transcription of Interview with Judge Lynn Toler
Eric Michaels: Which party do you find yourself being the most hard on or less merciful within a divorce situation or dispute?
Judge Lynn: Well, I can't say male or female - what I say is the one who is acting the biggest fool especially if it is one who I find harmful to children. The money, the assets each other always take second place to anybody who is doing anything that I find who's being descructive or harmful to any children that may be involved - that party gets it!
Eric Michaels: From your perspective - what is the #1 cause of divorce in America?
Judge Lynn: You know that's really a tough one. A lot of people like to say money but I don't believe that, I think money is the topic that most people will cop to they will say, yeh it was money but I think pressures of all kinds do it. I think its - the overall thing is a lack of communication. Ever marriage is going to have pressures and it's how you handle it and what you do and your ability to communicate and talk about how you feel - what you need and what you want and how you are able to compromise and make it workable for the both of you. So I will say failure to communicate because the reasons are so vast and I can't point to one.
Eric Michaels: What is the craziest case that you tried that comes to mind?
Judge Lynn: WITHOUT A DOUBT...it is the case where the woman - the bride - slept with the best man as opposed to the groom on the wedding night. The marriage lasted 90 days which to me was amazing that they got passed that night she says he was drunk and playing cards with his buddies when he was supposed to be taking care of his marital duties so her best response to that was to sleep with someone else.
Eric Michaels: What have you learned personally from being a Family Court Judge?
Judge Lynn: I think the thing that I have learned personally is to, and this is a very specific thing that I think it's very important and a lot of women can learn from it is to make the ASK. A lot of times women, and especially me misinterpreted my husbands failure to understand how I feel or to help me out when I am really busy or crazy around the house and I think he's just being inconsiderate and unkind and why doesn't he want to help me - he doesn't think its his job when in fact he just doesn't understand I need help....
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Judge Lynn Toler discusses & answers: -Importance of Communication - TO ASK!
- How she would handle a case where the parent that is responsible for paying alimony, loses his or her job and can't provide financial support for some time.
- And a Special Tip...
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