author of the book No Sex In The City
joined eHealth Radio.
Lindsey has been working with singles for over thirteen years and has traveled nationwide speaking to audiences ranging from junior high girls to collegiate women about relationships and sexual purity. Many books about sexual purity speak to men, but few–if any–speak to young women. Lindsey Nicole Isham boldly fills that gap with No Sex in the City
, the brutally honest and often hilarious story of Lindsey's quest for sexual purity in the face of an impure culture, baffled peers, and sexual desire. Speaking from her own experience and from years as an abstinence advocate, Lindsey treats young women like the sexual beings they are, exploring their desires and curiosities about sex while relating candid experiences and truths about sexual purity. A great tool for Bible studies, youth groups, and abstinence organizations, No Sex in the City
will help young, single, Christian women discuss their thoughts and keep their purity commitments. You can get more information by visiting her site at LindseyIsham.com
Part of Interview:
Eric Michaels: Now you say you are a thirty-one year old virgin on purpose, not by accident. You want sex; in fact you are convinced that you need it. You just like talking about sex- The good stuff, the way it is supposed to happen- in marriage. With that being said - Tell us about what inspired the writing of your book "No Sex in the City"...
Lindsey Isham: Well, I know I get a lot of different reactions when people hear that I am a thirty-one year old virgin but the main reason I started writing my book was because my entire life, I was made fun of for my stance. Growing up, I was definitely the center of...guys would come up to me and say I will be the first to get you laid just so you know and of course my response was find a new goal - it's not happening. As I grew up and got older and I went to college and I was an athlete & surrounded by athletes, and you know, I got asked out a lot so word got out that I wasn't a girl who got around and I stopped getting asked out. I started noticing that and I said OK...I'm human, I liked to be asked out, I want to have a boyfriend, I want to go on dates, I like to eat food, all that normal sort of thing but all the guys that I knew just wanted to hook up and forget about it and I didn't want to be that girl. I didn't want to be the girl who guys bragged about in the locker room whose name they couldn't remember. Girls that hooked up with over the weekend or whatever. I always knew, you know what, I deserve more than that and I deserve a man who is going to love me and commit to me and by commit I mean marriage by pledging the rest of his life by being committed to me and loving me. Growing up, this is what I have believed since I was a little girl. I knew what I wanted and I knew what I deserved. I looked around and I saw a lot of abstinence speakers and of course I am interested because I was living that life and I wanted to be encouraged. What I saw a lot of was, a lot of people encouraging people to wait and they were really good at it. Tons of people made abstinence pledges, they bought purity rings and then there was no follow through. When you look at the statistics the typical person who makes an abstinence pledge breaks it by the time that they were twenty - about 80% of the people break it. That just killed me. I couldn't believe that was happening and I don't know if it was pear pressure or if they were just sick of waiting or what. I wanted to write about this is why I'm waiting and this is how to wait and how to out live that lifestyle of sexual purity and waiting even though it's completely frustrating sometimes. I'm human and I want to have sex. I am not having sex because I have not had any offers or because I don't want it - I am waiting because there is something else better out there. When you look at history and what our government spends each year just on STDs alone - I looked even recently today, it's like $16 Billion dollars a year that our government spends just on STD prevention & maintenance. When you look at all these things, it makes complete sense to wait, not only because I am worth it but because there is so many benefits to waiting until marriage...
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Author Lindsey Isham discusses & answers:
- How old were you when you decided to STAY a virgin?
- What are Sexual boundaries?
- Special Tip including how do you evaluate a man's SPERM count?
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